Voodoo speed dating
When you like a person, you constantly think about them.
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Did you just go out on a date and wonder how it went?
Are you staying up all night wondering if he/she feels the same way you do? Pretty much everyone has been in this situation at one time or another.
Here’s why: The root of all pain like this comes from your imagination and an uncertainty about what to do.
What happens when he/she does something different from how you’d imagined? You’ll either feel hurt that he/she isn’t doing what you want “anymore”, and perhaps try to change that person (which will not be well received).
So, to start off, try to not imagine what it’d be like, or how good it would be.This is where an intuitive mind trying to analyze tons of possibilities becomes extremely harmful. The other thing that happens when you think about your future together too much is that you are analyzing too deeply down one branch of the possibility tree.Other parts of your life start to shrink because all your thoughts are focused on how good it would be together.You think about having kids, raising a family, sharing lots of romantic adventures together. That will only happen IF he/she likes you, IF you continue to like him/her, IF you decide to have a baby, etc. This does NOT mean that you should maintain relationships with other people “in case you broke up”. I’m talking about what you would do if you were completely alone.There are just so many things that can change that particular possibility. All your planning has been focused on the two of you being together, so when the unexpected happens, you have no alternate plan! Say there were no people in the world, what would you do?This is when people sit at home crying, blaming the other person for not fulfilling their dreams. Now say there were 2 people in the world, what would you do?