I recommend carving out 2 to 3 hour 'dates' every week that you can use to see someone new, go to a singles mixer, or browse dating sites.

As an online dating coach, I work with many single moms who are lost about what how to date again after divorce. Makeover Yourself – Most of the makeover you need is probably mental.

Feeling sexy again is the first obstacle to getting back on the dating saddle, but once they’ve overcome that, they don’t know where to look for a new mate. Here are 7 of my top tips for single moms to help new love blossom this Spring. Expand Your Social Circle – Many times it is hard to meet new people when you’re waiting for your same friends, co-workers, or churches to introduce you to singles they know. You are sexy, caring, a great match and to snag your next spouse you need to feel good about yourself. Schedule in Your Free Time – When you don’t have the kids, take advantage of the extra time to see your dates.

Use all the great technology and dating innovations now available to meet new people – online dating, meet-ups, social networking, speed dating, mixers and more. Say Yes – As a the mother of a 3-year-old, I understand that it feels weird to go out again after you’ve had kids but this time when someone invites you somewhere, say yes. Try getting a new wardrobe (or a few pieces) or starting a new workout routine. Make sure you schedule time for your new mate he comes into your life.

Many moms are so over-committed that new partners feel you don't have time for them.

They had no ambition so you seek out someone with a high-profile career.

These relationships can seem satisfying at first but make sure you are loving your new partner for who they are rather than just filling the holes left by your ex. Keep Your Kids Out of It – Being mom myself I know how your life and your conversations seem to always end up revolving around your kids.However, in the dating scene, this is a topic for a later date.When you’re dating, a man wants to see you in a sexual way and using pictures of your children on your dating profile or talking about them throughout the date is a turnoff.You don’t have to delay your dating life until your children’s 18th birthday.Armed with new tools, self-confidence, and a solid support system, MILF status is within reach. By lazy, I mean I don't put in the real effort required to make online dating work. I have a lot of other things on my plate and to be completely honest, I love how my life is going as of now. The reality is if you want to succeed with online dating, you've got to go out with a plethora of frogs to meet any potential partner, and right now, I have taken a slight back seat to swiping left and right and mindlessly texting guys who I will probably never meet.